How to be a good wedding guest

A wedding day can often cause unforeseen stresses for a couple and a wedding coordinator or an organised venue will usually help them relieve some of these issues. However, there are also some things that you can do as a guest attending a wedding which can prevent any further problems from arising.


RSVP as soon you can: The first step to becoming a dream prospective wedding guest is replying to your wedding invitation as soon as you can. Letting the couple know quickly whether you can attend their wedding will make their lives a whole lot easier when it comes to knowing their guest numbers, organising their seating plan and also to allow their caterers to plan well in advance.

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Make Diet restrictions known well in advance: As well as replying to your wedding invitation quickly, it is also important to let the couple know whether you or your plus one have any dietary requirements. This will help your couple’s caterers and will therefore help the wedding breakfast run more smoothly if all dietaries are known prior to the day of the wedding.

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Arranging your accommodation: Upon finding out the location of the wedding venue, you may discover that you will need to travel to the wedding and may also need to arrange alternative accommodation. If this is the case, try and avoid hassling the couple and try and arrange this yourself. They may have over 100 guests to keep happy and they might not have the time to liaise with every guest over their own arrangements. Therefore, contacting the venue before the Bride and Groom may be an easy way to prevent an added item on their To Do list. The venue may offer accommodation or may be able to offer recommendations to local hotels or B&B’s for you.

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Arrive in Plenty of Time: On the day of the wedding ensure you arrive in plenty of time to the ceremony or church service and before the Bride has arrived. The worst thing you can do is arrive just as the photographer is getting those perfect shots of the Bride just as she is about to enter and ruining that moment for her. Arrive early and take your seat as soon as you can in order to prevent any delays or mishaps.

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Avoid wearing white: This should be basic wedding etiquette, however it has been known for wedding guests to wear a white dress and causing upset for upstaging the Bride. This situation is easily avoided by wearing any other colour and allowing the Bride her special day in white.

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Bring a gift or card: Bringing a gift or card, whether that be money the couple can put towards their honeymoon or a physical gift for their married home and new life together is a simple and polite gesture of thanks for being part of their special day.

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Respect the Timeline of the day: Keeping to the timeline of the day is an easy way to prevent issues for the couple. As mentioned, arrive on time for the ceremony or church service and continue this throughout the day. Avoid hanging about in the bar when the couple are about to be announced into the reception or as the speeches are about to start (particularly if you are a guest giving a speech). If guests hold up the running of the day, it can make the rest of the order of the day behind and result in food being served late or speeches to overrun.

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Don’t hog the Bride and Groom: Everyone who is invited to a wedding means a lot to the Bride and Groom and in turn the couple mean a lot to each of the guests which means they have a lot of guests who they want to greet and thank. While you will want to congratulate the couple, make sure that you don’t take up too much of their time during the day so that they can speak to all of their guests and also enjoy as much of their day as they can as it will fly by for them.

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Avoid asking for constant song requests: A good DJ will try and put together a playlist of music which suits the couple and what they like while also trying to include songs that are to everyone else’s taste as well. This being said there might be a few songs that aren’t always your cup of tea and it may be hard not to give the DJ a list of requests to play instead. It is important to remember that the DJ is there for everyone and more often than not, they will have spoken with the couple prior to the wedding to try and arrange a playlist that the couple are happy with and feel will keep the majority of people happy.

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Drink Responsibly: Finally know your limits when it comes to ordering drinks, particularly if it’s a free bar. A wedding is always a great excuse to enjoy yourself and let your hair down while celebrating the couple. However, try not to get too carried away with the excitement and fun of the wedding as the last thing the couple will want is their guests having to leave early or worse being thrown out by the venue because they are too drunk. Have fun responsibly!

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